Ways to prevent divorce:

Divorce is a legal attestation of termination of a marriage. The actual degeneration of a relationship starts much earlier, though it may not always be necessary that the divorced couple no longer love each other. In fact with teen marriages becoming increasingly common, the phenomenon of impulsive acts has resulted in many marriages and divorces.

Some divorces may be due to a genuinely failed relationship, or incompatible partners. There are also many cases of divorce where the decision to seek for a divorce is based on a frivolous reason or an impulse that rose out of a minor altercation. The latter cases usually lead to a divorce that may legally separate two people who are still engrossed in the other and had a simple misunderstanding.

This can actually help explain the cases of marriage, divorce and re-marriage between the same couple, which we see nowadays. So it is essential that the decision to seek a divorce is not taken as a hasty reaction to something. This will help prevent unnecessary heartbreak. While it is true that trying to live in a broken marriage is a useless exercise, it should not be overlooked that a premature and impulsive separation ought to be avoided too.

If there is a feeling in at least one of the spouses that the divorce is uncalled for, and that the reason behind the other seeking the divorce is reactive, then the following steps need to be considered.

1.The spouses must be made to confide in their closest friends and they must be encouraged to discuss without any inhibitions, the ramification of a divorce, and the cause behind it.

2.The couple must be counseled by professional counselors so that the actual cause of heartburn can be ascertained. It is but natural that people have differences in their persona. A relationship is all about how they reconcile themselves to these differences and live together.

3.Apart from involving friends and counselors, the couple should be asked to have a frank, open discussion on what has caused the situation that prompted one or both of them to seek divorce. If they have children, they should be made to understand the impact that the separation will have on the children.

4.If these discussions bear no fruit, the couple may be asked to live separate lives for a specified period, usually between a month and 6 months. This will be very useful if the couple had sought divorce due to an overdose of each other. The imposed separation can rekindle the longing for each other and they may decide to unite again.

The children, if any, in a marriage suffer the most when their parents go through a divorce. The effects of the divorce on the children need to be impressed on the couple and the welfare of the children ought to be adequately addressed.

If after all these, the couple still believe that separation is the only way out, they have to be allowed to separate. This is because living in a relationship with no love is a pointless exercise and can cause more harm than good.